I used to be able to fly in my dreams. All I had to do was “think” I could, and flap my arms a little and I was off like a bird! Then, as I got older, I remember NOT being able to do it anymore. I would go to “take off” and hear that voice in my head tell me I couldn’t. Then I’d be stuck to the ground like lead. Funny how you can talk yourself out of your capabilities so easily. Even in your dreams, where you can do anything! Its like that in your reality too. Not the flying thing (obviously) you’ll need some science on your side for that one! But if you REALLY wanted to, you could do it. When you believe it’s possible, and you work towards it relentlessly you WILL achieve your goal. Will you fail a few times? Definitely. Learning how NOT to do it is all part of the journey. When you fall, get back up and learn WHAT you did or didn’t do correctly. Apply that and go again. Super Mario 3 was my JAM! I would play and die and start over (and cheat with The Genie…you know what I’m talking about) until I WON! If the Goomba killed me with his spiky turtle shells I would memorize his patterns and dodge them the next time I made it there! Losing over and over again until you win is HOW you beat the game. It’s how you achieve your goals too. It’s harder to fail in real life though, because we are so concerned about other people’s opinions of us. Well guess what? Other people opinions of you, are NONE of your business. People will judge you whether you fail or succeed! Worry about you, your morals and values, the choices you make and the impact you make in this world. If today was your last day on earth, would you be proud of the person you’ll be remembered as?
So what would you do if you KNEW you couldn’t fail? Think BIG! If money were NOT an issue? What is your perfect life? Figure that out. What gives you joy? What fills your soul? Once you can answer that, work tirelessly until you’re there! And when your internal safety mechanism (your brain) tells you it’s not possible, not safe, not attainable, remember that YOU are unstoppable! The human mind is an incredibly powerful muscle and when it’s conditioned and trained it can do so much more than you could imagine. Don’t waste your life convincing yourself to be average just to feel safe.
It’s amazing to me that every super successful person, no matter WHAT they are successful in, is happy to share exactly how they achieved their success! Yet so many of us are not where we want to be in our lives. Ask that couple that has been married for 50+ years HOW they managed to do it? They know the answers! Communication, patience, trust, honesty, and lots of sex! 😉 Ask someone who built a successful business how they did it and they’d be quick to tell you!! Hard work, consistency, focus, and resilience. Ask the addict that kicked their habit and lives a clean life how they managed?! They’d be happy to tell you what it took to climb out of that dark hole and the struggle everyday to fight the demons in their head, with strength, remaining true to the promises they made to themselves and lots of caffeine! No matter what it is that your reaching to achieve, someone has been through it and has succeeded! Find those people. Surround yourself with those people, and listen! Watch, learn, absorb, study and emulate them! They are YOU in the future.
If I really want to fly in my dreams again, I could go online and find a lucid dreaming group. Make friends with people that have mastered controlling their dreams and learn what they have learned along the way. You can do the same thing with any goal in your life! Always be the dumbest person in the room… and then keep your ears and your mind open to whatever they can teach you.
When you feel as though your not strong enough, smart enough, thin enough, pretty enough, rich enough…then it’s time to say ENOUGH! You will believe anything you tell yourself enough. Why not believe in yourself! Love yourself! Work on loving you, gaining strength, getting healthy, learning everyday and giving back to the world. Nothing makes you feel better than helping another human being. A smile or a compliment can completely change someone’s life! And those are FREE!! Spread that stuff everywhere you go!